As an African-American woman, mother, wife, and entrepreneur, I know first-hand what it's like to be overwhelmed by the multiple hats that we wear. We're constantly told that we're "strong," "resilient," or the best one yet, "angry." Coming from a background where I primarily had to conform, I understand what kind of headspace that can put you in. And that self-doubt? Conformity is just the breeding ground for self-doubt, which stops you dead in your tracks, not knowing if you're coming or going. In ethnic cultures, it's common that we keep our problems within the family to avoid the risk of not being seen as "put together." I'm here to tell you that there is a HUGE flaw in the system! Us humans aren't meant to go through difficult things alone, unequipped, with little to no direction. Sometimes families think they know best, so please don't take it too personally!
When going through difficult times in my life, I wish I had someone to bounce ideas off of. I wish I had someone to provide me holding space to express myself and not feel judged. These very wishes are what led me to my path of becoming a therapist - to debunk the myth that seeing shrinks signifies weakness. I'm here to tell you that recognizing you have a problem and seeking out help is the single most bravest step you can ever make. It shows that you're stepping up to the plate to deal with issues in real time. It shows that you understand ignoring the problem won't make it disappear. It's showing up for yourself in the most authentic way, possible. If you're in your head about stepping out of your comfort zone to see the benefits of engaging in therapeutic services, I encourage you to schedule a consult and ask as many questions that your heart is content with. You won't regret it!